Live in is "IN"

The past decade has seen numerous changes in the Indian mindset and perceptions. Things that were considered taboo or too westernized are now becoming acceptable in the Indian context.
 And one such concept that has gained a lot of popularity in the past few years is the "Live in relationships". Though at times it comes as a shocker that a society that was once averse even to a bare minimum interaction between a couple who is engaged to get married, is now widening its horizons to accept various form of relationships with open arms.
The phenomenon of an open relationship, commitment without being legally called as man and wife is here, and it is here to stay. Even if the concept is predominant in the metros and cosmopolitan cities, there are also those who move from small cities, who are trying the option of moving in with their future life partners. As they say, men and women all over the world are same, so it is not surprising to see a trend that has already been popular in the US and UK finds its way into India. "If you love someone, & you are committed, why does one need to get a legal marital certificate to live and be sexually involved with him/her", this is the argument you come across from most lovebirds now a days.
But it is imperative to take stock of some very basic issues before you decide to take the plunge. Don’t "live in" just because it is "in". You are going to share your life with someone, and eventually, the whole thing will have an impact you mentally, emotionally and physically.
Let’s first look at the reasons for this sudden trend of Live in relationships.
 
# Indians are now is open to experimentation: Unlike the previous generation, the Indian youth is open to experimenting, be it career, relationships or sexuality. The entire woman's movement has made women more comfortable with expressing their sexuality and thus they are open to test waters before they decide to get married. Issues that were being considered taboo and shameful even to discuss, are now being respectfully accepted now. Though unwedded mothers is still a concept that is not welcome in India but a girl and boy in love staying under one roof is finding its way into the Indian home.
 
# Break up of joint family system: The joint family system is diminishing with each passing day, entire value system is changing. Youth living away from their "conservative" families have more space to express their freedom of thought. If the person loves someone, he/she wants to be entirely a part of them, and so the option of "living in" comes handy. Moreover, the present day youth has more freedom to choose their life partner, unlike the past when the parents used to find a suitable match, the concept is now changing and it is being happily accepted by many parents.
 
# Delaying marriage: There are various reasons for delaying marriage for many couples ardently in love. Some feel the need to pursue higher studies; some have responsibilities to fulfill before they take the marriage vows, so for them this concept of "marriage but no marriage" fits in perfectly. Move in together, live like man and wife without the extra baggage. It’s simple and yet gives you the option to start a life with your future partner as soon as you want to.
 
# Lacking belief in the institution of marriage: There are many who do not believe in the institution of marriage due to their past experience. It could be that you have seen your parents or siblings in unsuccessful marriages. You might have yourself had a bad marriage. Such people want to try out something different. Believe it or not, everyone needs a companion, so some choose a different way to pursue companionship.
Also, there are many who move past the marriageable age. Someone in his 40s would seek a partner with different expectations, they may just move in together rather than going through the rituals and complexities of marriage. Some feel marriage kills the charm and passion of love.
There is a "take it for granted" kind of a feeling. Couples also see a slight insecurity in live in relation and believe that the insecurity will help them keep the fire alive.
I personally believe that sexuality and relationships have nothing to do with values, each one of us has a different value system, there is nothing right or wrong. It is completely an individual's choice to say 'I do" or not, to marry or to live in, to believe in pre/post marital sex. But before you decide to live in, make sure it is a well thought and well analyzed decision. Though, it may seem there is no responsibility involved, eventually there will be enormous responsibilities that you both would need to share.
Be clear about your expectations from the relation. Even if you are not intensely emotional about each other in the beginning, eventually you would develop a strong affection, so "no strings" attached theory will not work for long. And of course, for all the women, make sure you have a heart to heart "child talk" before you two decide to move in. Because, you never know when the precautions don’t work.
Be prepared about the consequences and how are you going to deal with them. Nevertheless, the issue is still controversial, and everyone has there own take. Reader's inputs are welcome.
Just few lines to add,
"Ishq mein kuch na munasib nahin hai,
zamaana toh nasaaz gaar karega, par iss ishq ko dabaa de,
kisi ki itni zuraat nahin hai"
So till I login again Happy Living In:-)